When we make something special – when we “pay” attention or give focus to something that has happened to us (or didn’t happen to us?), or something that we want, or something that we want to release – we give it power. It becomes something we grasp on to or obsess about or measure our worth by.
Often this has the exact opposite effect we think it will. It can artificially keep undesirable things and behaviors in our lives, and block what we really want. Let it go. It doesn’t have to be a competition. It’s not special.